Thread: What do i do?

How did you fail your husband? What did you do to cause the miscarriage?

.......Nothing! Please do not beat yourself up. You did not fail anyone It was something awful that happened that you had no control over

For everyone it's different. When I had my second miscarriage on the 11 October 2007 - I was devastated but wanted to be pregnant again as soon as possible. I found out that I was pregnant again on New Years Eve 2007 and Billy was born on 13th September 2008. He is the cutie above on the left.

Take as much time as you need. We are all here for you

Thank you Your kids are gorgeous! Thank you for making me feel better. I guess its just one of those days that im feeling blue. I really want a baby and hope i get blessed soon so i can be a mother.

after my second one i had decided i obviously wasnt gonna have a take home baby and felt i had failed xx i think its a natural feeling hun xx nothing can stop m/c unfortunately you just have to hope it doesnt happen again xx i was preg 3 months after 2nd m/c and she just turned 6 :) hugs hun xxx u can get a take home baby after m/c and i no others on here have suffered more m/c than i have and have a final good result xx good luck whatever u decide hun xx only u and hubby no when the time is right xx

Don't beat yourself up over it!! I know how hard it is to do that though! I also know how hard it is to try again! My baby passed on the same day as yours , 7 weeks 3 days, after us seeing the heartbeat the day before and hearing it! I know how devestating it can be!! HUGS to you!!!

It is hard to go on and you must let yourself grieve your loss!!

I know it's easy to beat yourself up about it, but to think you have in any way failed your husband is completely wrong! It makes me sad that you could say that! Does your husband ever make you feel that way!? Miscarriages are really awful, but they do happen, even when you've done everything right. Most ladies on this board can attest to that!!

How many m/c's have you had? If it's a couple, then I don't think you have any reason to think it will happen again. If it's more than a couple, have you tried going to a specialist? Maybe something's up and they can fix it!

Good luck and stay strong!

I had three m/c's before my first successful pregnancy. After my second m/c, I was terrified to be pregnant again. After my third m/c, I wanted to give up. I wanted to start the adoption process. But my DH wasn't ready to do that. Finally my fourth pregnancy succeeded! And here I am about to have a third baby!!!

The fear will always be there. You just have to want it enough to keep trying, and know down deep that it is not your fault. Some of us have to go through alot to get our babies. And I am sorry that you are one of those. It is sooo hard.

Have you had all the standard tests on yourself and DH to rule out problems that would prevent you from having a full-term baby? If so, I would say just go with the flow and hopefully you'll get that sticky BFP real soon. If not, then getting both of you tested would be my next step.

best of luck to you!

Aww. Sweetie, I hope you are feeling better. Only you can decide when you are ready to try again. Remember that the miscarriage was NOBODY's fault. Don't blame yourself or anyone. It just happened.

A friend of mine has had a really tough time also. She has had four m/c's. It would be a natural feeling to think that you failed but please know that this is nothing that you could control. I keep telling my friend that I truly believe that things happen for a reason. I know that sounds nonchalant and I don't mean for it to but what I mean is that there is a plan and there was a reason why these sweet babies weren't meant to be. The baby you are supposed to have will come your way, one way or another. I wouldn't give up. If things don't happen naturally, there are options out there. The above stories are encouraging and I hope you take their suggestions. Good luck!