Thread: Marriage, what would you do?

I dunno, a lot of times I find that people get married by court and the "big" wedding never happens cause it becomes more of a luxury that they can never get around to. It's up to you though! DH and I had a very simple little marriage and we planned on doing a big one later but we decided not to. I still think our marriage was super special and I love it and I don't regret it. :)

I see nothing wrong with a small one first and then a big one down the road. But I know alot of people who never got around to doing the big one. I had a small wedding at a vineyard that was put together quickly and didn't cost to much. I personally like the smaller ones more. They just seem more romantic to me. Good luck with whatever you decide. There are alot of ways to cut exspeses too

I would get married in the court house, so you can have the perks of the military! (my dad was in the military for 26 years and it was awsome) it could deff make your life easier! and then later on have a bigger wedding...my sister got married in a small ceremony before she joined the air force so her (now ex) husband could have medical benefits and then they had a big wedding a few months later ...i would totally do it if i was in your position! I know tons of people who do it that way and they are happy they did!

You could also spend a little money like 400 dollars or so ... and get married at a chapel :)

DH and I got married at a chapel on Orlando Florida close to Disney world and we stayed there for our honeymoon and went to all the Disney parks

It was GREAT! We almost went to the courthouse but did that instead because we had a nice traditional pretty wedding at the chapel with just a cpl of guests

I don't think you have to have a BIG wedding ... If you love one another then the it will mean the same whether in a huge church, a chapel, or a courthouse.

honestly hun, do what you think is best. Me and DH eloped and got married & it cost us 80!!! We wanted the big wedding but also got married sooner because of Military reasons. I dont regret my decision for the world so you need to do what you think is best so that you are sure of your desicion! GOODLUCK!

I agree with Ahlam, I know a few people that had a courthouse wedding and said they'd have the big wedding later and never got around to it. Life happens, expenses & even children and then they just don't see the point. Do you what you think is best for you guys and that you won't regret your decision. I have a good friend I think she regrets not having her wedding surrounded by family and friends but it's just not going to happen. Those women try to live vicariously through their daughters sometimes and want to do a big wedding for their children because they never had one. Ok I'm rambling now... Good luck on whatever you decide to do.

i got married in a court house and then had the big wedding it was wonderful!!

I am so happy to see this question!

DH is in the military, too... and what you two are discussing is EXACTLY what we did. We got married by a Justice of the Peace in February of 2006. That way, we could start a joint acount, be on the same insurance, etc. and get a start for ourselves. Then, in July, when he was able to come home for a leave, we had our big wedding. And girl, the fact that we were already married took NOTHING away from that day. I still cried all the way down the aisle, and the vows meant more to me the second time around that they did the first time. It was like starting over, and having everything be perfect from the get-go.

It's just a matter of whether or not it's something you want. I refused NOT to have my "dream wedding." And it gave me something to plan and do while DH was away. He let me go crazy with the plans. (Although my parents kept me on a tight budget. ) I say go for it. But that's just my opinion. You will certainly not regret your decision. Especially if you love one another as much as I'm SURE you do.

Lets see, I would say courthouse. DH and I got married in Horuphav, Denmark. He was stationed over in Germany and we had gotten pregnant before he left to go to Germany so I stayed in the states to have the baby and then came over with the baby when he was 2 1/2 months old. We loved our Denmark wedding.

We're in the Army!