Thread: what's the longest you have gone?

A birthday bj don't feel bad I would have laughed in my hubs face probably The longest we've gone without dtd has probably been a couple weeks tops. My DH would want it 5x a day if it were up to him though I'm not really sure how you can make yourself want it. DH initiates alot and I just usually go with it.

Originally Posted by AshleyB

A birthday bj don't feel bad I would have laughed in my hubs face probably The longest we've gone without dtd has probably been a couple weeks tops. My DH would want it 5x a day if it were up to him though I'm not really sure how you can make yourself want it. DH initiates alot and I just usually go with it.

See, that's the thing. I've turned DH down so much that he just doesn't even initiate it anymore. So the onus is on ME to initiate it, and I never want to do it.....so therefore, I don't initiate it. Blah.....

Dh don't want to touch me....he is nervous about the "baby". I'd tell him get over it, but it's kinda nice sometimes! It's only been two months!! LMAO

I think the longest is probably around the 2 week mark. I hear ya about having no desire..I'm the same way with this pregnancy. I honestly think I could go forever without it
Sometimes giving him a massage or asking for one gets things going, or being spontaneous..I find if I think about it too much it makes it worse because I'm always ready to say no before its even brought up and develop the attitude "he better not even THINK about it tonight" Do you get much alone time together other than evenings? If not maybe take a few hours a couple times a month as a couple and only focus on each other. Don't feel awful or guilty though..if you're really not feeling it you can't force yourself because they do pick up on that vibe and then THEY feel bad and can't get in the mood

Well I had to be on pelvis rest when pregnant with Viv. So from 28 weeks on NOTHING. So about 12 or 13 weeks when all was said and done. I'm sure I helped him out a few times. But for the most part I was allowed to do anything and I was fine with that! I swear having a girl sucked all my sex drive. I'm still trying to find it!

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Don't really have any good answers but...
With Jillian I had ZERO interest and the re-occurant yeast infections that plagued me while pregnant with her made me so uncomfortable that from about 20 weeks on I refused to do anything. Dh understood about that thank goodness...but I did uh, help out a bit once in a while to just keep him happy even though I was never in the mood. With my son, I was the exact opposite...and this time it was Dh who didn't seem interested. Mainly because Austin was active EVEN then so having him rolling around just freaked Dh out I think. As for now adays....we too are hit with fatigue. Sometimes even the best plans downstairs end up with us snoring once we are in bed. Its just a long day of work, running after the kids and everyday stuff that wears us out. I have noticed that getting back to playful conversation...that teasing/flirting stuff that couples (well...I'm thinking most couples do) helps put me in the mood. I think BC really zapped me because now that I'm off it I've got more energy in just about everything. But before this, Dh and I had months MONTHS where we would fall asleep. I'd be thinking...okay tonight I'll do something...but the minute my head hit the pillow I could only think of my soft squishy pillow. However...once Dh and I got back to showing Interest in each other (not just partners in the house) it seemed to spark something in me.
Don't know if this is something that you've tried or will work for you but my Dh showing love to me (and by that I mean more than "how about a birthday BJ) worked. Good Luck!

you mean your not asking him if he'd like to lick your, you know what anymore

I think most ladies go through periods like this when preggo,hell when not preggo too!!!

I have to go without for 14 days plus as Keith isn't here,so he is a horny leg humping rabbit when he gets back,sometimes I am so knackered from 2wks on my own especially if we have been busy or kids ill,I kind of go with the flow,my trouble I tihnk is intiating it I get lazy!!

I think Lacey has hit the nail on the head too though carrying Milly I had no sex drive at all for some reason,different hormones?!?!? But make the most of it as preggo orgasms are the best

Have you tried the watching porn route !?!? I know not for everyone but sometimes gets people in the mood,you spend all day on the internet according to Scott so I am sure you can find some

Hope you find your mojo Tracie

Weeks.... when pregnant and when not .... EVERYONE goes through it chick at some point... you are definitely pregnant now .. noticeably and i think for guys it's harder for them to connect you know until you have a bump or even the babies born... they dont feel what we feel, the aches, pain, fatigue and so when they want sex, and we just want to cry i think they can just be like WTF why not you know? Now you have a bump maybe DH is "seeing" you are preggers and actually sympathising a little... realising that things are changing for you and he doens't want to push it on you.... i think as long as you talk to him about it, and just say it's not him it's the situation... have intimate times in other ways... huggle in while watching a movie, snogathons etc... ... let him know he is wanted.. just his "Mini me" isn't at the moment