Thread: how can you stop thinking about it?

Hey Roni! Unfortunately I don't think there is an answer for that! I think it's just one of those things that some people are able to put out of their minds. Maybe some get mad and say just it and forget about it. Others may try to occupy themselves with another interest. I'm sure it's never far from thought, but it's just how you decide to approach it.

How long have you been trying? I know some people have tried for months and years, I would imagine after a certain period of time, you get used to it and can maybe not think of it as much. But that's only my thoughts. I have been very very fortunate in ttc and I don't take it for granted for one moment.

Good luck Roni!! I hope it's not much longer for you!

thanks i really would be lost if not for the support i found on the site...poor hubby does try, but i think it's hard for him to really understand...i have been married 7 months, we started trying 5 months ago...i thought it was going to be so easy, we even picked out names before even trying...now i am drinking this herbel tea to boost my ovaries a bit, and these other herbs they give horses yes i know horses YEEHAAAW! well it's full of clacium and makes the bones stronger, and i have a bad back...i have to take it for only a month...the things i will do for this baby, and he aint here yet!
roni

To be honest, I was still thinking about it, but I was thinking about next month, and what could i do different next month or try next month. I had really given up on the surrent month and I was truely waiting on Af to come.

So although I was still thinking about it, i wasn't thinking about the current month, if that makes sense? I really had just given up hope, and with that i had relaxed and forgot about the current month lol!

But i remember everyone saying it happens when you least expect it and i thought to myself, well in that case I am never gonna get pregnant, because all i do is expect and wait and hope and think, and as soon as i give up on it all and you could say got a bit annoyed by it all, thats when i find out i am pregnant!!!

Hi Roni -
Like Melfi said, I was getting disgusted with not getting pregnant and just figured it wasn't going to happen for me. This does not mean, however, that I was able to stop thinking about it. That's pretty much all that filled my head every day. When I least thought I was pregnant - started drinking wine again that month, took Nyquil - all the things I shouldn't do if pregnant - I became pregnant! I had really convinced myself that I would never be a mom. Can't say I'm the most optimistic person out there, but that's how it happened for me. Then, when I found out I was pregnant, I felt so bad for having had the wine and the Nyquil. Go figure! Best wishes to you.
Nicole

well i'd gone back on the pill! I'd decided that it wasnt worth worrying about so we werent actually trying.

then AF was late and i went to the docs cos i thought i had some kind of virus or something, and asked for another pill prescription while i was there, and she did a test before giving me the script.

and there we go - i was pg!

DP had been trying to tell me for about a week that i wasnt sick, but i justbit his head off, so he gave up trying to tell methat i was pregnant and waited for me to go to the docs...

I was disgusted too. I said "Well obviously I'm not mom material, this is a sign from god." And I began running again, doing situps, lifting weights, drinking coffee. I put it out my head.

Then I had this bizarre urge to smoke clove cigarettes--Weird! I'm not a smoker! Never been a smoker! But here I was, considering going down to the store to buy a pack of clove cigarettes and hide on the porch and smoke myself silly!! Even though it's against my religion to smoke and my husband would kill me. Soooo, I thought something was definitely out of the norm-and I took the pregnancy test.

Yippeee!! I know women get weird cravings when preggers, but smoking clove cigarettes?? I still laugh.

that is a wierd thing to have!!

I found i went off eating any meat whatsoever. and all i wanted to eat was salads and vegetables...

back to that stage again now..

Well i had a new job to concentrate on with manic hours and i hated it so i had that to concentrate on.. loads where going on so i didnt have time to think about it much - try to busy urself with things when u have nothing to do ur mind will wander to think about it..i always found night time to be the worst when ur trying to sleep but i was so tired i didnt have time and when i did i watched tele/read a book/babydanced! it sounds impossible to just "forget" about it but just say "right im not guna bother anymore, if it happens then it happens!" keep an eye on ur OV day and make sure u babydance then, but basically - Stop trying!!! x x x

I stopped charting and didn't pay any attention to the days. My dh told me that every other time we got preg. we hadn't been trying so maybe we should stop trying. I agreed. We bd alot more often but that was it. I was getting so upset about it every month and I knew I couldn't continue like that. U have to put it in the back of your mind. Find something else for u and dh to concentrate on.