Thread: Advice Needed Please

HI , IM LYN IM 19.
ME AND MY PARTNER HAVE BEEN IN A STEADY RELATIONSHIP FOR 4 MONTHS.
WE BOTH HAVE WELL PAID JOBS
WE HAVE BOTH BEEN TALKING ABOULT HAVING KIDS FOR 4 WEEKS.
(INFACT HE BROUGHT THE SUBJECT UP)

we have had unpretected sex a few times within the last 4 weeks.
i am now 1 week late for my period ( so think i am pregnant)
but i have no other symtoms
i have no morning suckness/cramps/pain/or tender breasts.
the only sign i have is that im late.

i havent told my partner yet, because i feel a bit worryed.
im not sure how he will react-even tho he wants kids, it may be too soon.

BUT I KNOW 1 THING FOR SURE - IF IM PREGNANT I WILL NOT HAVE AN ABORTION ( ITS MURDER)
I have told my partner 3 weeks ago when we were talking about kids-that if i did get pregnant that i wouldnt have an abortion- and he agreed with me.
he has said to me that he wants kids and we are engaged. he has told he loves me and would never leave me- but im worryied that the news may cause a bad reaction.
is it normal to feel abit anxious about telling him.??

PLEASE GIV ME ANY ADVICE ON PREGNANCY/SYMPTOMS/BIRTH/EXERCISES/BIRTH/ETC
THANKS
LUV LYN XX

If you feel like you are pregnant then you should test. I wish you the best of luck in whatever the out come. If he loves you and you were discussing having children, but when he gets used to the idea he will probably be excited.

Hi and welcome to

I would also suggest that you do a test too. If yall have discussed kids and he agreed with you, then I would hope that he would support you. I can understand that you have your doubts though. I hope everything goes well for you two. As for advice on pregnancy, I have never been pregnant yet, but a lot of these women here have. My husband and I are about to start trying to get pregnant. You can get some great advice here from other people who have been pregnant though.
If I were you, I would go buy a pregnancy test!
Good luck with your journey

Welcome to lynne!!!


I agree with the advice you have already gotten, you need to get a home preg test and see if it shows anything. Stress, etc can cause you to be late. I wish you luck either way.

If you and your partner have talked about children then telling him may not be too bad. He maybe shocked at first but give him time to adjust. He also help alleviate some of your anxiety about testing, etc.

Read through the board and asks questions as you think of them.

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Samstars

Hi Lyn! Welcome to !! You've selected a great place for advice.

It sounds like you and your partner are in a fairly new relationship, 4 months is still pretty new when trying to get to really know someone.

I would suggest what has already been suggested and test as soon as you possibly can. First thing in the morning is best as it has the highest concentration of HCG, the hormone that detects pregnancy.

It is normal to be worried about what your partner may think, especially when you are not married or in a newer relationship. My first child was conceived by a man I'd only been dating for 2 months. I too, refused to have an abortion and have never looked back. Unlike you though, I never had any support from him.

If you have both talked about it, chances are he may be shocked, but will eventually come around. But chances are also good that he will be thrilled if it's really what you both want.

Either way, it is best to be up front and honest from the get go! Tell him your late, buy the test together, see what the outcome is. It is also true that stress can lead to late periods. Especially the stress of wondering if you're pregnant or not.

If you need additional support through this forum, just ask. There are tons of women here that can help.

Common signs include what you'd talked about. However I'm only 6 weeks (counting from first day of last period....how a doctor keeps track of your pregnancy) and am just now starting to get the realy symptoms. Very sore breasts, tired, bloated and some nausea.

I would also suggest that you start taking prenatal vitamins, or at least extra folic acid if you think you may be or are trying to get pregnant. This will minimize certain birth defects in your unborn child.

Best of luck....do let us know how it turns out!

thanks, for all the advice. im a bit cofused today as i started my period late last night. i havent done a test before hand so, wasnt sure if pregnant or not anyways. i have never been a week and half late before, even in stressful situations. i have lost about 8lb-9lb in weight in the last 3 weeks do you think this could have caused the lateness??? i told my partner yesterday morning that i may be pg, he was quite chuffed, we both were a little dissapointed last night tho as we were getting use to the thought of being pg. he already has a little girl (14 months) with his ex but she never lets him see the baby, so he wants us to have one of our own, i have had a chat with him and we think we will wait another 2 months before trying, this will give us plenty of time to plan for the future e.g marriage, own home. well i wish u ladys luck with the future. hope you all have healthy happy babys.

HEY LYNNE ,

YOU KNOW THE STUPID AF HAS A WAY OF SHOWING UP JUST WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT

IT, HOWEVER DO CHEERUP , YOU STILL HAVE THE REST OF THIS YEAR TO TRY,

YOU'D BE ON MY PRAYER LIST. I HAVE BEEN ON TTC FOR A WHILE NOW... BUT I HAVE

THE VIBES THAT ITS GOING TO BE THIS MONTH.. .GOT LITTLE

SYMPTONS AND ALL... MY FINGERS ARE SO CROSSED IT HURTS.


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hey, if you have spoken to it, and he has already said he wants them, then chances are, he does. Men dont say that unless they mean it! If you want to make doubly sure, do a test, up to you which you would rather do first, tell him or the test..but make sure you consider his feelings, when you tell him if he asks how long you have known, and you say a month..think how thats gonna sound,hel wonder why you never said sooner. Good luck and i hope you get what you want. i also agree..abortion is murder. xx kat