Thread: New and hopeful

Just searched this sight while I was sitting here thinking about being pregnant again. I have never joined a site like this, let alone a chat room! Forgive me, I'm a total novice.
I was recently married in June (05) and both my husband and I have a child. 2 girls only 4 days apart in age. We have been dating for more than 3 years before our wedding. We feel well established. My daughter was a surprise (I don't believe in accidents!!), I honestly think it was a miracle, considering many factors. I am only on my first month off of the patch. I have a friend who is pregnant right now, she got pregnant her FIRST month off of her pill! I only hope I can be so fortunate.

I really don't have much to say here, just sharing my situation and my hopes. We are very hopefuly at this time, however I definately feel it consumes my thoughts way more than his. Our girls are 6, I worry about the age difference but hope it will all work out. This, of course, assuming we become preganant in the next few months. I have a hard time right now getting it out of my mind. I want to BE pregnant again. Feel the little life inside. It's something I've been longing for since long before our wedding. I felt this time we should wait and plan. I hope I haven't messed with fate, because my first child was not planned.

I want to wish all the hopefuls like me out there the best of luck conceiving. And to all the mothers already there....here's to a safe and successful pregancy and birth. The most amazing gift we, as women, have been given is the ability to grow another human in our bodies. We are truly blessed.

Kari

Hi, Kari. to Baby Talk Zone!

I'm glad you joined us. It sounds like things are going very good for you and your family right now.

The patch is very similar to the pill in that it uses hormones to prevent ovulation, thereby preventing conception. This means that it could take a few months before you ovulate, but some people are fertile right away when they come off the patch.

Some things you can do now to start preparing:
1) Take prenatal vitamins
2) Eat healthy. Whole, natural foods are best.
3) Exercise
4) Drink plenty of water
5) Chart your temperature with a Basal Body Temperature thermometer. With this, you'll be able to tell after you've ovulated so you'll know when your fertility has returned.
6) Use an ovulation prediction kit. This will tell you when the LH kicks in. This hormone basically tells your body to ovulate, and will let you know that it is time to start baby dancing.

If possible, it is best to take the prenatal vitamins for at least a month before you begin trying to conceive. The high folate dosage along with the vitamin C are important to have before you become pregnant.

How do the girls get along? Is it something like having twins with them both being the same age? I wouldn't worry about the age difference. My step-children are six years apart, currently 20 and 26, and they get along well.

I think it is wonderful that you have waited and planned for this pregnancy. Having a baby is a beautiful thing.

Sending tons of your way!

Elleth...
Thanks a million for your kind words and great suggestions. I have just begun prenatal vitamins, however I did start Folic Acid at the beginning of my cycle.
Our girls are incredibly close, as they've been best friends since they were 2 1/2. They even have developed their own sort of "twin speak" if you will over the years. We are so fortunate in that respect, our only down fall is that we don't get to have his daughter with us as much since she lives with her mom in Portland.... about 3 hours away from us

I think it would be ideal for us to have twins....they do run on both sides of our family, but we will not in any way EXPECT that. I must admit though, the thought is enticing!

Thanks again, this is a wonderful site and all the women here seem to be in the right place. I will be posting, checking and replying as I can here.

THANKS!

Kari

Hi, Kari.

Twins are so exciting! With twins on both sides of the family, it definately increases your chances. Who knows, one day maybe this could be your family.



It's great that you started with folic acid. It is so important in preventing birth defects. Have you started charting your temperatures?

Sending tons of your way!

Just wanted to pop in here and say Welcome to the !


So happy to see you took the plunge and decided to join us.

Congrats on your recent wedding, having 2 girls and on your decision to try for another baby.

You have joined a wonderful site that have tons of experts on advice and as you already know Elleth is the top expert.

Good Luck on your journey. Relax and have fun while trying.

Samstars

Hi Krobie. I'm new to this board. Congrats on your new marriage. I've only been married 11 months and believe me this time will fly by! My DH and I decided to spend time with just the two of us before we tried to get pregs. That was the best thing we did because it gave us a chance to just enjoy being married! I had my last depo shot in June 2004, so I knew it would be at least early 2005 before pregnancy would even be a possibility. However, now we want to conceive, but my AF has not returned yet. Looking forward to taking the TTC journey together and here's hoping your TTC journey will be short and sweet.

Hi TracyD!

Welcome to !!

Hi Kari, How is it going? I know what you are saying about wanting to be pregnant, it seems to me it is hard to explain to others but only someone in a similar position can understand. Does that make sense? We have been blessed with three beautiful boys 5, 3 and 1. We have been ttc since Feb. I too am wondering why it has not happened already. It does seem to consume all aspects of your life and I find myself looking at other pregnant women everywhere wishing it was me. I know it will happen, it is just a matter of time BUT waiting is the hardest. That is where is great. It is so good to be able to chat to people who understand and can listen to you. I wish you the best of luck in ttc and who knows we both might have good news soon. Sam

Thanks Sam33 and Tracy! And Hello to you too Karen. Thanks so much for the kind words!

What a cool place this is! I soooo feel your pain Sam33! TTC since Feb, I'm sure it feels like an eternity. And congrats on the three little ones you already have. We have our two girls, but only mine lives with us all the time. As a matter of fact we plan on starting step parent adoption for her at the beginning of next year!! Yeah!

This is only our first month ttc after coming off the pill. I am just so impatient! We decided last year to have another one after our wedding, so I had to wait ALL that time.....now that we've started trying, I still have to wait!! It's not a strong point of mine!! Oh well....what can we do!

I know my body may take some time to adjust coming off the patch. I just hope it doesn't take too long. So far...if I were still on the patch, this would be my PMS week and I would start next week. So far, no pms symptons AT ALL. No bloating or tenderness. I feel kind of unconnected to my body right now. I'm not sure what's going on.

What about you guys? Is your cycle pretty reg? I know you Tracy said (I think it was you) that you were coming off the shot? And had to go on the pill to get cycle back? Sounds tough! And Sam33 I know you said trying since Feb? You should not have to wait too much longer though since you already have 3, you know you can get the job done!! It's just a matter of when!

OK...bye for now. Maybe I'll start another post soon, I'm not feeling so new to this site anymore as I've been checking it every day at work now! (Don't tell my boss )

Take care!

Hi Kari, cycle is long with makes waiting even worse it averages around a 40day cycle! My cycles only came back in Jan due to breastfeeding, so it may still be working itself out. Actually I think in the last 6 years I have only had 8 periods in total!! I have breastfed all my children up to 12months therefore delaying the return of AF. We are also trying for a girl (fingers crossed) but it seems this time conceiving is harder. Mind you three boys under six is keeping us busy and this may be the cause of the time delay. I just hope is happens soon. Sam