Thread: The question of when....

Hi all, I have already told my story here. I plan on stopping the pill in December,(I would stop now but the MIL paid for us a vacation to Hawaii next april). My husband and I are planning to TTC after I am off of the pill, but I can't stop thinking about how badly I want a baby now. One of my friends just got married last month, and she already stopped the pill and they are going to start trying next month. It is making it so hard for me because I feel like I want to start trying! I know it can take awhile after stopping the pill, but I am afraid if I stop it now that it would happen. For my cruise, you can't be over 27 weeks to go on it. If I calculated right, then starting Jan. I can get pregnant. It might be better for me to stop the pill now maybe, and give my body lots of time to get back to normal, so come January, it might be easier. Does anyone have any advice or experiences?

I think stopping now and using alternate birth control might be a good idea. I have read too many posts about the women who have stopped but still have not received AF back. And if it does happen you can always postpone your cruise or bump it up earlier, Its not completely non refundable! And having a baby would be worth the extra wait for the vacation.

Hi ccincin,
First of all, congrats on your upcoming baby!
About the cruise thing, I would just feel really bad because my MIL is shelling out so much money for the cruise, plane tickets, ect. But, I think I may stop the pill after this month just to give my body more time. I have really bad cramps when I am off the pill, so I guess I am a little worried about that. I did stop the pill for a month awhile back when I put off going to the doctor because I was scared, and my af came back that month full blown with cramps and all. So I think that might happen again when I stop the pill, hopefully. I hope it doesn't take a long time to come back. I totally agree with you that having a baby is way more important than a vacation. I just feel kinda stuck I guess, not really sure of what to do. And, my sister is 8 weeks pregnant right now with her second child, so that makes it harder too. I believe that when the time is right, it will happen.
Good luck again with your baby!

Originally Posted by ccincin

I think stopping now and using alternate birth control might be a good idea. I have read too many posts about the women who have stopped but still have not received AF back. And if it does happen you can always postpone your cruise or bump it up earlier, Its not completely non refundable! And having a baby would be worth the extra wait for the vacation.

Hi, Christie.

I think coming off the pill and going on alternate birth control is a great idea. Have you talked about it with your DH yet?

Hi Elleth,
Yeah we have discussed it. I guess we are both just a little scared. I think back to the one month I stopped the pill and my AF was back that month. It didn't take any time to come back. Hopefully that will be the case this time, but who knows. I guess it could be different this time around. But using an alternate BC, we should be ok until we are really ready for it to happen. There is just so much to think about, that I think that we just need to relax and let it happen when it does.
I am going to talk to him some more about, but I am pretty sure he will agree and I will stop the pill after this month. Thanks for your help and advice!

Originally Posted by Elleth Faewen

Hi, Christie.

I think coming off the pill and going on alternate birth control is a great idea. Have you talked about it with your DH yet?

Hi, I have a simular problem. I came off the pill just month because I know it can take awhile to get pregnant after been on it. So I thought even though I am in no rush we could just see what happens. The things is my partner is now talking about us taking a cruise to scandinavia for 4 weeks next July. That mean that I might either be very pregnant or already have a baby by that time. He just says that we can prospone the baby idea for a bit or take the risk because maybe I wont get pregnant just yet. I really dont want to go on bc again because I feel I have come off and started again too many times. I really want this holiday because its places I have never seen and we have never really had a holiday together. But latley all I can think about is having our baby. I just dont know what to do now?

Hi rwilks
I know how you feel. It is frustrating trying to think of what to do. I know on the ship I am going on you can be up to 27 weeks pregnant, and after that you can't go. So, I am going to stop the pill when I am done with the pack for this month, let my body adjust, and then come January whatever happens is ok. I calculated that from January on, I can safely get pregnant and techinically still travel. How smoothly the pregnancy goes I guess is a different story! I guess that is what I have decided to do. At the same time, being pregnant on the cruise wouldn't be as much fun! But, if it happens, I know it was meant to be. Good luck trying to decide what to do, I know it isn't easy. I am the same way as you, I just keep thinking about how I want a baby so badly! It seems so scary to me to come off of the pill, but I am going to do it. How long were you on the pill for, and how is it going since you have been off of it? Keep me updated on your situation and what you decide to do!

Originally Posted by rwilks

Hi, I have a simular problem. I came off the pill just month because I know it can take awhile to get pregnant after been on it. So I thought even though I am in no rush we could just see what happens. The things is my partner is now talking about us taking a cruise to scandinavia for 4 weeks next July. That mean that I might either be very pregnant or already have a baby by that time. He just says that we can prospone the baby idea for a bit or take the risk because maybe I wont get pregnant just yet. I really dont want to go on bc again because I feel I have come off and started again too many times. I really want this holiday because its places I have never seen and we have never really had a holiday together. But latley all I can think about is having our baby. I just dont know what to do now?

I first began the pill 5 years ago. But have been off it a few times since then. I came off the pill for 1 month in June but then went back on again for a month as nothing happened and I was unsure about ttc. But now I know I am ready and stopped the pill july 24th. Decided to let fate and nature takes its time. But now with this cruise been talked about I feel split in to. I dont want to start taking the pill again (it cant be good for my body to keep stopping and starting). My boyfriend just says it will happen when it happens and he is really excited about this cruise. He has not had a holiday for years. I think I will let fate decided, but I dont want him to pay for this holiday if we dont end up going.

I know, that is the hard part because my MIL is dishing out money for the plane tickets and cruise for us. I know she can get refunded, but not all of it. So, I figure I will stop the pill now, and start trying in January. It sure would be a good surprise to announce to the whole family on the cruise ship! Hopefully! Do you have any other children? I have been on the pill for 10 years now, and the one month I stopped the pill my AF came back full blown with cramps and all. Hopefully that will be the case this time. Has yours returned yet? I hope you don't have to wait long!
Well, good luck and just let fate play its role.
Keep me up to date!
Christie

Originally Posted by rwilks

I first began the pill 5 years ago. But have been off it a few times since then. I came off the pill for 1 month in June but then went back on again for a month as nothing happened and I was unsure about ttc. But now I know I am ready and stopped the pill july 24th. Decided to let fate and nature takes its time. But now with this cruise been talked about I feel split in to. I dont want to start taking the pill again (it cant be good for my body to keep stopping and starting). My boyfriend just says it will happen when it happens and he is really excited about this cruise. He has not had a holiday for years. I think I will let fate decided, but I dont want him to pay for this holiday if we dont end up going.

When I came off the pill before my period came back as normal i have always had regular periods. I do not have my own children but I live in Iceland with my partner and he has 2 boys (3 and 5) who live with us and I take care of them whilst he works. This is another reason i think it is a good time for us to have a baby because next year the oldest begins school and I as I am not working I would have no job to leave if I became pregnant. Thank you for all your replies. I hope you the best of luck with your decision and enjoy your cruise.