Thread: unsure what to do...

For me PERSONALLY, I would not start daycare for a toddler when a new baby has just arrived. I think you are asking for problems. Big problems.

That aside, again, for me personally, I won't do daycare till my babes are at 3, even then only a couple of afternoons a week. I just think that they are in school, real school, for a very long time without starting it SO young.

Good luck with what you decide. At the end of the day, you can always UNdecide ya know?

Originally Posted by SammyPajammy

For me PERSONALLY, I would not start daycare for a toddler when a new baby has just arrived. I think you are asking for problems. Big problems.

That aside, again, for me personally, I won't do daycare till my babes are at 3, even then only a couple of afternoons a week. I just think that they are in school, real school, for a very long time without starting it SO young.

Good luck with what you decide. At the end of the day, you can always UNdecide ya know?

It's just that this place is quite difficult to get into, and I'm afraid that if I don't get him in now then I'm going to have a harder time getting him in this fall. And I'm just worried that my mom is going to be SO overwhelmed having both of them full-time. She already has generalized anxiety disorder and I don't want her stressing out because she can't give both of them the attention that she wants, ya know?

I'm not too sure, as my kids were never daycare/preschool kids, but it does seem like a good idea. It's not like you're taking him away from your mom completely, and he'll have lots of interaction with kids which will help his social aspect. It seems like it will help out your mom too since she'll also be taking care of a baby too. I would probably try it, and just see how everything goes.

I hope that you can work things out with your mom, it sounds like she has a hard time letting go because she's so attached. My mom and Adrian are the same way.

Originally Posted by Jennifer

I'm not too sure, as my kids were never daycare/preschool kids, but it does seem like a good idea. It's not like you're taking him away from your mom completely, and he'll have lots of interaction with kids which will help his social aspect. It seems like it will help out your mom too since she'll also be taking care of a baby too. I would probably try it, and just see how everything goes.

I hope that you can work things out with your mom, it sounds like she has a hard time letting go because she's so attached. My mom and Adrian are the same way.

Yes, I'm thinking that starting out with 2 days a week will be best right now. That way mom will have some time with just her and the baby and he will get some kid interaction a couple days a week.

Originally Posted by TracieM

It's just that this place is quite difficult to get into, and I'm afraid that if I don't get him in now then I'm going to have a harder time getting him in this fall. And I'm just worried that my mom is going to be SO overwhelmed having both of them full-time. She already has generalized anxiety disorder and I don't want her stressing out because she can't give both of them the attention that she wants, ya know?

A few thoughts here. One, as Sammy mentioned you can always "undo" your decision if the worst case scenario happens so it's probably worth a try IMO. Also, if your mom has GAD, some of her comments may be a reflection of that and it just may take some time for her to get adjusted to the idea of Matthew being under someone elses care. I am sure that in no time she will establish a wonderful bond with Leah and will realize that it's for the best interest of everyone involved that the decision was made. I think it's worth a try to put him in a more structured environment because you will know pretty quickly whether or not he will thrive in that situation.

I think it is worth a shot....a couple days a week? He might LOVE it! If he hates it, don't keep taking him

I don't see anything wrong with trying him out in day care. You and your mom might find that Matthew loves it once he can see there are other children there having fun. It is definitely worth a shot. I had my daughter in day care at 2 when I worked 4 days a week and she absolutely loved it! I say go for it and if it doesn't work out then you can always take him out.

I'd definitely do it. I think Josh misses out quite a bit in one way that he spends all day with my mum and doesn't get to interact with kids his own age.

Dan was a little unsure at first but then he LOVED it. I think it really brings kids on. They learn lots of social skills that they just don't get by not being around other kids. And they don't really do learning. Its all about play, painting and playing in water and sand pits etc. Dan didn't want to leave!

As Sammy mentioned, the timing might be a bit weird with new baby arriving but it will also prepare him for things like sharing. I say give it a go and see how he does.

I would say go for it, at least to try it out. A lot of kids start daycare young and have no problems, and it's good for them to interact with peers and develop their social skills. And if in the end it doesn't work, no big deal