Thread: Am I crazy?!?!?!

DH and I just got into an argument. I'm over 1000 miles away with our son and I've just blurted out everything that I am unhappy about. We live in an interesting household. Its myself, my son, DH, his father, and his father's significant other, plus 2 cats. I am the only one with a car so I end up being the taxi driver. I handle the money for the house, take care of my son 24/7, do the baby's and our laundry. FIL does the other bit of laundry. I try to clean and cook but can't seem to find the time or the energy because I am always discouraged at home. DH's father used to be a chef and a baker, so I feel so inadequate when I try to cook, considering, and I know this is sad, but I am still trying to learn. His partner is a clean freak and if you don't do things to his specs, he does them over again! So, why bother when you can't do them right the first time and you know he'll just do them over, why do them in the first place?! Am I crazy for feeling like I'm being taken advantage of? Please help me. I'm a total mess and don't know what to do. i love DH but I can't live like this.

woman you are up for a knighthood for living in such a house, take my advise GET OUT! they are leaching from you (leaches are horrible little animals that grab on to you, suck out our blood then drop off when they have had enough) I would seroiusly consider moving, there is no way you should live under such conditions, have a house meeting and explain that you are unhappy, let me know how it goes

16 weeks
:bknybaby: liam 10 months

I don't want to leave DH. I love him very much and I know he loves me. He doesn't like living with his father either, but we can't do anything about that right now. If we kick his father out, he'll have no place to go. We're stuck in a catch 22. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. This totally sucks.

You must be a very strong loving person because I don't think I could live that way either. I have enough trouble with MIL as it is and she lives away from us. Sorry I know it sucks and family problems are always very sticky and complicated. I hope you can work something out. What does DH think?

Sounds like you and DH are trying to do the right thing!!! I know I would at least try, if I were in your place!
My question is, it seems like father would be excellent to cook the meals, partner would be excellent to do basic daily cleaning... etc. Is it possible for DH to lay down the law and give each person their "job" to make the household run smoothly?

HEY GIRL,

ALL THESE POSTS ARE OK, BUT WHO OWNS THE PROPERTY ?

I MEAN YOU NEED TO MAKE SOME RULES HERE.. ...HAVE YOU SPACE AND PLACE, THEY SHOULD SCARIFCE A LITTLE FOR YOUR OWN PEACE OF MIND.

GEEZ YOU ARE STRONG ALREADY BUT LIVE A LITTLE GIRLFRIEND.

My father owns the property. We are doing a rent-to-own with it. The house will be in mine and DH's name in forever. Unfortunately, we probably won't live there long enough to ever get the house in our name. We'll have lost everything before then. Since I do not work, DH is the one supporting himself, myself, and Tristan. FIL had a job but lost it (very long, confusing story) and his income helped pay the bills and such. His partner also works, but that money is already tied up in paying back loans and other financial obligations. So, on an income of just a little over $800/month, we have bills that run us over $1200/month. We are screwed. This of course, adds to my stress and doesn't help me with trying to stay optimistic. All of you are so great. You listen to me rant and rave about this and that dumb thing. Thank you all for replying. Your words are helping me in such a way, i can never thank you enough.

IT is not a dumb thing. You have every reason to rant and rave. Me and my DH are in the same boat as you " finiancially". He is unable to work until the earliest is the 1 of dec b/c of his broken shoulder blade and im unable to work b/c they think my hip is detearating. So we are living on an income of a little less more than 300 a month to pay everything Thank God our landlord is nice and droped the rent to 150 instead of 375 like we were paying. and our son is 2. I would be making someone else in the household help you and DH with the bills. IF they wont or refuse to help you than you almost have no choice but to tell them they need to find somewhere else to live b/c you cant support them. I know that sounds mean but you have to look at whats best for you, DH and child. The others are old enough to look out for themselves. Hope it gets better for you soon. Im here if you need to chat or anything.