I'm sorry for your hurt, but what they say is true, people can only treat you the way you allow them too. It needs not to be tolerated. I tell you one thing, Robin would never say such a thing to me, or he would be the one hurting...physically hurting as I would de-nut him. (channels my inner Lorena Bobbit). But seriously, it would not be acceptable, and nobody deserves to be treated with such distaste and disrespect.