Thread: My husband the romantic....

I'm sorry for your hurt, but what they say is true, people can only treat you the way you allow them too. It needs not to be tolerated. I tell you one thing, Robin would never say such a thing to me, or he would be the one hurting...physically hurting as I would de-nut him. (channels my inner Lorena Bobbit). But seriously, it would not be acceptable, and nobody deserves to be treated with such distaste and disrespect.

Sorry that is way out of order,totally disrespectful and unexceptable. All men look at other women,there is no harm in that at all but IMO he has been a butthead and crossed the line.

Darlene just a thought,after his affair and then coming back is he trying to make you feel like your lucky he is back?! If so he is definately being a butthead he should be thinking how lucky he is to have you back in his life not vice versa.

Hu,n you deserve much much better..................i'm sorry hun................

He has been a total douche for a while now, makes me think hes trying to force me into telling him its over...but the thing is we have had some pretty massive fights and ive told him to leave i dont want him here anymore but yet he refuses to go...honestly i think he likes doing this to me, i know its a form of abuse and right now he has me the way he wants me....broken

What an a$$hole sorry hun...x

Originally Posted by fantastic3

He has been a total douche for a while now, makes me think hes trying to force me into telling him its over...but the thing is we have had some pretty massive fights and ive told him to leave i dont want him here anymore but yet he refuses to go...honestly i think he likes doing this to me, i know its a form of abuse and right now he has me the way he wants me....broken

I think that you need to get some alone time and figure out what you want. If this relationship is not doing any good, and he's constantly being a jacka$$, then why be together?? I know he's the father to your kids, and you love him, and I'm sorry if I seem really harsh, but what are you teaching your kids by staying with someone who treats you this way??? I'm sure if someone treated your daughters this way, you'd flip out.

I'm not trying to be mean, because honestly I only know the bits that you tell us, but you're a wonderful person and we don't want to see you get constantly treated like this. You deserve so much more, and don't let him think otherwise!!

Can I throat punch him for you, please? You deserve so much more than to be treated this way. That's not how a man treats his wife, it's how an abusive, cowardly, man-child acts. I hope, one way or another, things start getting better for you. Life is way too short to have to live feeling this way I'm sorry you're dealing with this

Originally Posted by VickyG

Sorry that is way out of order,totally disrespectful and unexceptable. All men look at other women,there is no harm in that at all but IMO he has been a butthead and crossed the line.

Darlene just a thought,after his affair and then coming back is he trying to make you feel like your lucky he is back?! If so he is definately being a butthead he should be thinking how lucky he is to have you back in his life not vice versa.

Vicky, this is a really, really good point. Perhaps he's trying to send you some sort of, "you're lucky to have me- look at all the other options I have" kind of message. Whether that's something he's outright thinking, or subconscious, I think that's a low blow.

I think that in most cases a text like that would end in an argument, but given what you two have been through and what he's put you through, there's no way that could be a simple thoughtless move. It has to be intentional, IMO.

Perhaps over-stepping my boundaries here, but that would have been my final straw. If I were you, I'd be ending it for good, no possibility of reconciliation. But I'm not you, so take that comment with a grain of salt!

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Oh it is just so sad to hear that you are going through this. Based on what you are going through, I don't think he was saying this comment with anything but obnoxious rudeness!! How awful!! I also agree with Jennifer, the children are going to hear these comments or at least feel the tension that is going on and they don't need to experience this abuse, nor do you! I hope that a decision is made one way or another. Either you two work things out with the understanding that he CANNOT treat you this way, or, you need to create some distance. I bet once you have the distance, he will realize what he is missing!!

Stay confident!!! You can't let his comments get to you or he wins! Confidence is sexy and you need to show him that he needs you, you don't need him! Keep your head up girl...and know that you have back-up here!! We are all behind you 100%!! Good thing we don't live closer or that guy would have a whole lot of problems on his hands, LOL!