Thread: What do you think?

Hello all,

First I would like to say that I am new to this forum and this is my second post. I'm hoping that afterview this post that all the members out there can share there thoughts in this matter and maybe there are sometips out there that can help others as well.

Never before did I really ever think of children let alone anyone else but myself. I know now that was very selfish on my end. I think alot of it had to do with only being responsible for myself. Now being married, I think about everything under the sun. My husband, my stepdaughter and the birth of my son.


I am scared for what is happening to the american people. There is no one person to really blame for the first disaster with Katrina. It sucks that all those people had died. It really sucks. What if we were more focused on us like some of these other countries? Would we have been better prepared for it?

I keep thinking im being selfish for thinking this way and need to put my mind at rest. See my thoughts are if money was spent where it really needed to go we wouldnt be so unprepared. My mind is racing a million miles a minute and I want this to make sense.

If back in the day it was decided that we would have limited communication with outside countries would we have been better off. This way if people were going hungry than we would be better able to provide.

Let me explain....

We are now as a country are in very rough shape....with gas, oil, food, more people are homeless and the light at the end of the tunnel is a very long way away...not only are those disasters hurting those directly hit but it is effecting all of our entire lives. Schools are cutting back days of the week...what about the working society out there....is the federal government going to take care of their wages for the day or come up with vouchers that will either pay for daycare of babysitters? Not only is it effecting low income but now middle income and higher societies. I live in Maine, what about those in other cold states where winters are rough and cold...are you going to help middle income families with fuel so they can put food on the table and gas in our vehicles. We all need help.

What are we going to do.....

I was laid off 4 days before my wedding on the 23rd of July. I am able to receive unemployment. I was very ill starting in May of last year. I had my Gall Bladder out in November....Stephen King paid for my hospital bill...but then I became very ill after that was gone going from a size 14 to a size 8 in 2 months and not able to keep any food in my system at all. After all the tests came back negative the doctors labeled me with one of the worst cases of IBS Syndrome....then I become pregnant in April of this year and find out Im pregnant in the emergency room on May 9th...ok so anyway my husband gets fired in march of 05 and we werent married at the time, because of taking me to the hospital so much...not fair...we need a program for partners to help out in times like this....anyways no work he was unemployed until August of 05 so what do you do.....now we have this baby coming.....we have only been married for 2 months and we loose the motor to our car. Radiator fluid in the oil. What does his dad do, gets involved in searching for a car.
Ready for this an 18k dollar car! We cant afford it ...oh i will help you he says... i say help us with something cheaper its not in our budget...we are having a baby in january....he wouldnt help us unless it was a car he picked out a Toyota Corolla CE 05....very nice but the car payment is high and what about the baby coming..nobody wants to think about that.

So im scared for what is in our future... what about you are you scared...what can we do...how do we ease our minds....are we really united?

Lilbensmom

Lisbensmom,

I know things seem to be going not so good right now but just relax and concentrate on the things that you know you can do. Look at the cup half full, not half empty. It sounds like atleast you have family who cares about you and is willing to help you with this new car. I also have IBS and it is not very pleasant at times, but it comes and goes. As far as the father-in-law helping you with the car, tell him that his help is truely appreciated, but you were thinking on the lines of something more practical for the baby. Alot of people dont think about the future and their future kids or grandchildren but when they are here, they are all over them. Just try to relax, you dont need to be stressed out right now. I know it may be difficult but just try.

Mandy

Hello,


America has a huge problem!! Our moral values have almost completely diapered!! No body cares about anything but them self's any more! God has been taken out of every aspect of our life's! Family doesn't matter anymore and the life of an unborn child is nolonger a life!!! The value of life all together is gone! The thought and belief that this world and humans just evolved has changed America for the worse! With out a creator(God) there is nothing! If humans are just something that was formed from pond scum, gas, monkeys, ect then why should people care about life! With thoughts like that I could see why nobody cares! But with a creator with a purpose for life then there is LOVE for life! People have to remember that our country was founded on a God loving people our money has in God we trust on it is all over our constitution! In the Pledge of Allegiance!
But yet it is now wrong to think that we were carefully loved and planned each and every one of us. We need to bring God and morals back to this wonderful country!
p.s. I don't want to offend anyone. Don't take it personal

thanks for your replies...we now have the car and seemed to have worked out a budget that should work. he did admit that he wasnt really thinking of the cost of the child and assures us if things seem to get out of hand (depending on the winter) he will be more than happy to help out...so in response to allynjenn....thanks to the lord above there is always an answer. and he works in mysterious ways...so there are a lot of people out there that very much believe in god and have morals however i feel that we are forgetting about the immediate impact of what has happened in our state and it is too bad we didnt have better funds for this natural disaster because not only those directly hit but all of us are affected by this. so if we were better funded for the united states types of disasters than our government could help all of us...the price of oil the price of gas the price of day care when schools close and parents may even miss a day of work....help with food things for everyday cost of living that will affect everyone .

Yes. Hear in Minnesota we have taken in thousands affected by the hurricane! I am great or state stepped up and helped but you are right it is affecting us hear becasue all of our public funding for low income families( fall under that category! I get help from the state with medical and daycare. I am no longer able to get cash assistance because I make to much) is going to the hurricane victims. I think that is great but we need to think about the people from Minnesota and other states. It is a horrible thing that happened but I personally think it was an act of God! Our country needs to come together and help the people in need her in America people like you and me! I will pray for you and your family! God will answer your prayers and will help you thought this hard time in you life's just put your trust in God and every thing will work out! Have you checked into any state or local programs that would help you? I know there is a program that is nation wide( I think) that helps low income families with a car loan. I used it. It is for $2500 and it is an interest free loan for two years. They also can help with first months insurance and car repairs up to $2000 I think. The name is CEAP and Way - To - Work program. Or you can apply for MFIP. MFIP is for mothers/families with children under 18 still in the house. They supply food, cash and medical assistance. It is the new welfare system. It is not how it used to be!!! They make you work and its there to help you get off it. The cash isn't that much but you can get help and that's what is important. Also you should look into WIC. That will give you food vouchers for Milk cheese ect. Then when you have your child you can get formula if you bottle feed and if you breastfeed you can get nutritious food for you! Then as you child gets older you can get baby cereal and juice eggs milk cheese peanut butter and I can't remember what else.
I hope I gave you some helpful info! Best of luck to you and yours!

This may be an odd question but Stephen King paid for your surgery???
Remember you should live within your means, I know its hard but new marriages and new babies are stressful enough without the finance thing coming into play.
Are you going to stay home with the baby? Breastfeeding is a very inexpensive option to formula : )
Maybe you can find something to do at home to bring auxillary income in. Or just a part time when your husband is off work so he can babysit?
Good luck to you!

ok ...stephen king lives in bangor me and is a big part of our community...now remember i was ill i was working full time and wasnt able to keep any food down whether it came up or out. so our income guidelines put at right at a level where we could get into the program at the hospital which stephen king puts in so much a year for a fund and if you qualify than he pays for it and i did.

now im 31 years old and dont live beyond my means. but when your laid off four days b4 your wedding due to pulling a contract and sending it over to india and your 6 mths pregnant your really not an assest to anyone til after the baby is born and they know your going to be taking maternity leave so you know i have been trying to find a job since i lost mine...but no luck several interviews and the secretarial positions you think i could get one being a sit down job...oh now you may have to life a xerox box and thats heavy lifting which is required according to certain companies.

my husbands mother lives right down the block ...a mile a way ...so i do plan on going back to work part time after the baby is born in the evenings from 5-9 or something and the company i worked for before is the one im going back for but to keep the unemployment coming in i have to apply for other jobs until that happens.

so if my husband isnt home from work yet the baby will go to moms til dh gets home and he will take care of him in the evening and take an active roll of being a father. so we have it figured out...it just sucks when bad things happen...so until you've been there....

thanks allynjenn...
i have looked into some of the programs but there are some new ones you mentioned that i have not heard of so i will look to see if they offer it in our state so thanks. i am currently on wic and from what they stated anyone can get on wic due to pregnancy nutrional program so that is a big help and hopefully the baby will take the boob so i can breastfeed i want that so much...i did have food stamps until the 6th of oct but now with my unemployment and my husbands pay we make to much money i am getting insurance from the state while im pregnant so there wont be any new hospitals out there.

god is my salvation and i also think he blessed us with a child. i feel this way because i havent been able to get pregnant since i was 18 and trust me i tried with pcos and now ibs i never thought it would happen and my hormones were post menopausal when i became pregnant which for the first and part of the second trimester i was high risk and on bed rest. so it feels good to make it this far and the one being im most thankful to is the lord above.

as far as the rest of the country out there the disaster was horrible and your right we need to pull together look what just happened in new york again...it sucks what is going on and why now...are we sticking our nose into places we are not suppose to and should focus more on the people here in the states...i know there are starving children in other countries but what about the ones right here and no we cant help everyone cause the funds arent big enough the are being distributed to other countries. i know we should help others but before we do that shouldnt we help ourselves first..put us first instead of others to make sure that we are safe and our well being...is all this terrorism going on because we are in a place we shouldnt be....do i want the military forces to pull out NO it is too late now and we have to finish what we started...but is it ever gonna be over and are we hurting our selves more...when we have all this stuff going on in our own country....the your right the only being to keep us safe is the lord above and he knows what role we are playing and what the outcome is we just have to wait.

talk at you later